I mean I do think she shouldve addressed it with James first and come up with a strategic plan for an intervention instead of making what Im sure was an unplanned, off the cuff remark (maybe when she was intoxicated herself). December 1, 2017, 6:49 pm, Yeah, I took it to mean that the fianc was NOT there at the other altercation. Nah, she had no business confronting him. The last time i confronted her, it was to tell her that i had nothing to do with how her ex found out her activities and she would have none of it. SailBobo Trust me this would be settling in every sense of the word. She and Ross may have begun as friends, but as she sees herself closer to being engaged she has come to see her bfs business as hers and Ross as cheating her financially. The fact is that hes not emotionally ready to bring you into his life completely. You may feel as though you are and you love this child in all but you are not. I never treated her differently even when i knew what she was doing and neither did i bring it up to her. If you are in a place to guide the conversation, I think that seeing her still is good, but I think that toning it down a little might help. Also im still in med school. Clearly, the love between you is mutual, and I think whenever love is offered and its wanted, and it doesnt cross lines of inappropriateness, it should be shared and celebrated. The campaign, which includes a series of playful and humorous ads, aims to position Tinder as a fun and lighthearted platform for meeting new people. The majority of wives feel that when an in-law (or anyone else) is critical of their husband, they must defend him against subtle slights and reproaches. Started Monday at 06:41 PM, By No, but nor am I KNOWN TO HAVE ANGER ISSUES!!! Love is not blood only. I would move on. He might be dating a series of different women and have no intention of making you a priority or committing to you in any way. My feelings are hurt that he wouldn't instinctively . Your rivalry about their fraternity is unhealthy anyway, and they may be in their thirties, they are not mature. Ill try to make this as short and to the point as possible. You can't control other people --- but you can control yourself. Oh but we're kind of still young. Clearly, he does not. Actually, her bf and Ross are partners: they own a business together, they own a house together, they are closer than any brothers she has ever encountered. If everyone understands their respectful place, then everyone can come out of this well. In recent years, there has been a growing need for safer opioid alternatives. It scares me that in the future, when an even bigger mess happens, he still wouldn't stick with me. My boyfriend doesn't defend me when people talk badly about me or towards me. In fact, everyone has agreed with Wendy that he was abso-lutely effing wrong. It seems Ross is Ross and Ross lacks self control. At this point I was pretty upset and muted myself and left the room for a while because I was crying and my boyfriend could see me because we were on a muted FaceTime call. Started January 19, By This might be a bit of a different perspective, but I'd absolutely dump an SO who can't get along with my family or goes so far as to hate them. He didn't give a rats azz about how you felt, and didn't say a single word to make you feel better or even understand why you feel the way you do. Please please help me. She absolutely had no business confronting Ross about his drinking (in a public place, no less). Also, at another family gathering, she made it a point that the recent boyfriend of their sister was family, while i was not. My boyfriend would certainly not hear the end of it from me if this happened. But at the very least spoken with your boyfriend in private about what he thinks about his brothers drinking Instead you caused a public scene and later got one in return. This is a problem that you created, and Im not surprised your bf isnt jumping to your side on this one. Ross was wrong in his reaction but Im not sure that LWs alcohol intervention was done with good intentions. Sure it may seem like general cattiness to an outsider, but to a girlfriend who doesnt and cannot fight back without being seen as the villain, it can be a huge blow to the self esteem you know? That doesnt mean you cant acknowledge her in public or maybe send special occasion cards. Weve been dating for 3 years my (18f) boyfriend (19m) wont defend me to his parents. He feels like he owes it to her not to trash talk her to you; after all, she was part of his life at some point. He might soon have a child, get married, or get a job. at 23 you arent ready to settle down anyway. Its heart breaking, Im sure, but you have to look out for yourself here. For me, I have doubts over how genuine the LW is being when she says she was trying to help. December 1, 2017, 6:27 am. Kitnkabutle Have any question? Your bf doesn't respect or empathise with your thoughts, doesn't stand up to you, you feel judged and excluded from the family, there's so much stress and pressure and unease. Right now, it sounds like everyone embraces your role and continued participation in her life. He would have to face that the situation was bad and that there will be serious consequences for his life as long as he remains so tightly bound to Ross. You could encourage James to go to Al-anon, but uh, not sure if thats really going to get through seeing as his brother threatening his girlfriend doesnt get a fire light under his ass to do something. How immature. When people, even people you love, behave shitty you call them out. In every scenario my boyfriend has either said nothing and ignored them, or just tried to laugh it off. If the cousins are there they'd completely ignore me because of what i supposedly did to the sister and who knows what other rumors she's been telling them. Just be responsive to the parents. My boyfriend doesn't defend me when his friends trash talk me. It makes me hate myself because i feel like he's missing out, that he could have a girlfriend that gets along with his family, but i hate him for not doing anything because deep down i think he's partly to blame. He might have aspects that he doesnt want to tell you about. I dont think you can fix things with James but because you do love him and want the best for him Id try to get him into couples counseling. His dad dislikes almost everyone in his life, including me. Especially when that person has anger issues and you insult them. He repeatedly says very hurtful things about me to my boyfriend or to the rest of his family. If he doesn't have your back the relationship will only get worse. Ruby Thursday I'd be gone. Manage Settings my brother rabbit switch; raya and the last dragon zodiac sign; vizio xrt140 remote not working; Main Menu. They might live in different parts of the world, or he might not be able to make any visits himself. That has absolutely nothing to do with her. It sounds awful, frustrating and infuriating. . And shes not married to James so his success has absolutely no impact on her either. And it hurts. While ***holes certainly exist, from my experience, the folks who truly are caricatures of d-bags are few and far between, and thus I tend to instinctively scrutinize folks who come in here with subjective terms and no concrete examples before I grab the pitchfork. But eh. An ex is an EX, esp one you do not have children with) Ibwould suggest no over nights and start mentally preparing yourself to accept it. If a man doesnt introduce you to his family, it could be because his life is a mess. Thanks. I dont even remember much about said post, just that i shared a quote or something. Feeling down or depressed is a common experience for many people at some point in their lives. Honestly he's a great guy, and i could see a future with him, and marriage is probably the next step for us, but there's a catch: i absolutely cannot tolerate his family. Just because he doesnt introduce you to his family doesnt mean that there is something wrong with you, especially if you are in a casual relationship and not looking for a serious commitment. But yes, i agree with everything else you said. Are you feeling upset about this? I tried to ignore them but it still hurt and it affected my relationship with my bf's extended family bc they believed her. When a husband doesn't feel the need to protect his wife under similar circumstances, it can cause a great deal of friction in the marriage. He even kicked, punched, and jumped on my truck while I was . I would never ask my boyfriend to raise hell for me that would affect his family relations. 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The Real Housewives of Atlanta The Bachelor Sister Wives 90 Day Fiance Wife Swap The Amazing Race Australia Married at First Sight The Real Housewives of Dallas My 600-lb Life Last Week Tonight with John Oliver strawberrygurl ele4phant What a nightmare that would have been! Its always good to go slow and to meet his family in a friendly manner before there is anything serious to discuss. ), Autumnrose He tells me that if the situation was reversed he wouldnt give a damn and i dont doubt him. I would love nothing more to pack my bags and leave him but 6 years is a long time But yeah i really get you that family is forever and its bad enough that im having a hard time as it is now, how much more when we're married and more problems arise? They've made comments on my looks, interests, lifestyle, etc,. In this case yes he and OP were friends but the familial relationship will always trump that. 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